Monday, October 09, 2006

Warning, this is a long blog (for me anyway!)but I need to get all of this out!

I haven't blogged in a while because it was a stressful week around our house and I don't handle stress very well. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed with other people's problems that I just want to stay in bed all day and become a hermit.

Adam's girlfriend got kicked out of her house by her mother. First of all, I know that usually there is two sides to every story and we really tried to see her mothers point of view. The problem is...there is no side to her story. If Nikki had done something to make her mom mad or some horrible thing that teenagers sometimes do, then I would have understood (but I still don't think making your 18 year old high school senior find another place to live is justified). But there was no reason why she did this. She just snapped one Walmart of all places. Nikki came over the following day and she had a bruise on her neck and her nose was swollen. She was just broken hearted and confused, which just made my heart break. It was also very hard on Adam. He loves her, and wants to protect her and take care of her. They have dated for 2 years but he is not ready to get married of course, and so I think he felt helpless. So we loved on her and talked with her and encouraged her to call her dad and tell him what had happened. This of course made her mother even more furious, but her dad opened his home to her and I think she will be much happier with her dad. There is really a lot more drama to this story, but I'll spare you of that. If there was an up side to this story it this: I now see Nikki and a totally different light. I see how fragile she is and how her mom has been so controlling her whole life that Nikki has a hard time making decisions, even if it's decisions about her own safety. This whole thing has brought us closer and I think she will probably end up being my daughter-in-law someday...and I found out I'm okay with that!

Christian has been going though a very difficult time as well. It's not something that she wants me to publish for the whole world to see, so I will respect her and not give the details. But she has been hurt, and that makes me hurt. She is getting help, and I think she will heal...but she'll never forget.
Quoting Forest Gump, that's all I have to say about that.

So, this is Monday and I'm trying to get my emotional life back on track. I got my hair done this morning and my daughter Amie did an amazing job as usual. If you live in Murfreesboro and you need someone to do your hair, give her a call. Here's the link to the salon. Then I had lunch with a friend...Hi Tracy...and that was fun. And I started back on my diet today because I kinda went astray while I was sick. So I'm trying to get back to normal.

Now then, I really do feel better. Even though I know there are not that many people out there that actually read my blog! I'll try to blog on a more positive note tomorrow. Until then, I hope you have a great day!


Sonia said...

sounds like you've had a lot on your plate lately. I'm so sorry to hear that. It's so much worse when our children are hurting. That mama bear comes out, and you will go to the ends of the earth to make them feel better...but just can't be done. Have a great weekend.....hope to see ya soon!

Deanna- yep Dee-na said...

Hi Laura...
you are a great mama. :)
you are so kind and caring. i think a lot of you.... respect you so much, and completely relate to you. hope everything goes better for Christian and for Nikki. i went through lots of ups and downs at their ages... it is wonderful that you are there for them in the way that they need someone.